MILLENIALS & MINIMALISM

What is minimalism? Is it having a specific color palette for your clothes? Is it only buying one color for all your furniture & home decor? Is it only owning one brush? A 2-in-1 shampoo & conditioner? A soap that you can use for you, your dishes, and your laundry?

Minimalism, for me, has completely been about the journey. It’s nowhere near done either. I’m essentially clearing out anything that I wouldn’t define as a necessity, so that I have the mental & physical space to prosper. Where did this all come from? DEBT. Am I the only one who adopted minimalism to save themselves from debt? I figured if I could own less and buy less, I can afford to do more & be more in this lifetime.

I think, as millenials, we want too much. We see it, we like it, we buy it. Why? Because we can. The internet makes it really easy to get all the things. I can wake up, open Instagram, watch a story where an influencer has really cute boots, swipe up to buy them, use PayPal to pay for them in the same 60 seconds that I’m brushing my teeth. Have you done this, because I have. I’m not ashamed of doing it, I’m ashamed of not being careful when I do it. Sometimes, I shop out of my budget. Sometimes, I go out and pay for dinners I could make at home for a third of the price. I do, my friends do, maybe you do. Sometimes it’s just really easy to get caught up in having all the things you want, you end up with way more than what you really need.

I have been working hard to clear my spaces, both physically & mentally, and fill them only with the things to get me by. Now, this looks different for everybody, but I think at least 90% of minimalists start with their closet. I’ve narrowed my wardrobe down to certain colors that always match. Therefore, I don’t shop for clothes much at all. This has cut down my spending costs by 80% at least. I used to go to the mall once a week, and would never walk out empty handed. Now that my wardrobe is only black, white, and tan (for the most part), I feel like it’s complete. In addition to spending less, I’m also selling a lot of my old clothes that don’t fit in with the new color palette. So if you want to find some new clothes for under $10, feel free to check out my Poshmark closet (shameless plug. did i mention I have debt?)

After clearing out my closet, I cleared out my room. Just a smidge. I live in my parent’s basement, so I don’t have much in there to begin with. But I realized that I value space more than things. I took a day to get rid of the things that I kept from my apartment that made no difference in my life. Doing so created so much open space for me to have to just BE. I wake up to less mess. I have room to do my mini workouts. I even sleep better, so much better I don’t want to get out of bed most times. It’s comfortable, and clearing out the clutter helped to clear out my mind. I feel so at peace now.

Don’t get me wrong. I still have plenty of things. And I am definitely obsessed with what I do own. If you’ve ever seen my vanity, then you know. The biggest change that minimalism has made is…it taught me intention, over everything else. I don’t do anything that doesn’t move me forward. From the jobs I choose to apply for, to the places I hang out at with my friends, to how & when I spend time alone. It really is the simpler things in life that make it worth while.

 

IT’S JUST HAIR

if you follow me on anything aside from this blog, you’ll notice i cut my hair. again.

who even am i? i remember when i used to turn my face up at the mere thought of cutting dead ends. now i gladly walk up to a barber and ask them to shave my head. seriously, if you knew me at 18, this is something you would’ve never imagined.

one thing that held true through my entire adolescent years was the fact that i loved my hair. i especially loved its length. not like it was down my back or anything magnificent. but it was mine, it was pretty damn healthy, and i was proud of it. it was beautiful, it was natural, and it was versatile. my mom never put a perm in our hair, and i thank her behind her back for it all the time. although i started getting my hair straightened on a biweekly basis at the age of 11, i have always been natural. this kept my hair in good standing. but, me and my mom had a deal after high school. graduation = hair color.

img_3926a few months (and colors) later, i decided i was going to cut it some more. by some more, i mean alot. it was the same year i turned 21. and i changed, alot. my life changed, alot. it was around thanksgiving of 2015, and it was time for the big chop. i did it partially for the health of my hair, but mostly because i felt different and i wanted to look different. my mom gave me a hairstyle that was to die for, and i dyed my hair a greyish purple. i was definitely a new woman. but i grew tired of it quickly, because i wasn’t a fan of the cut with my natural curls. so i completely shaved my sides so i could have a fade & enjoy my curls again. i kept it short, kept appointments with my barber.

but then i got busy, and i stopped getting it cut, so it was growing back. and let me tell you, fades do not grow back in a flattering shape. so later that year, i shaved it down to an even length. i started over and decided i was going to cater to the health of my hair this time. was i cute bald? yes. but i have way more fun when my hair can fit into a bun. my hair was growing, flourishing. unfortunately, the thought of drastic color changes came back to me.

as you can see i went back & forth, from bleached hair to jet black back to bleached. and that last round of bleach didn’t do me any favors. my ends were dead. so…

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i cut my hair in october 2018. i got out the shower one morning, and i just wasn’t feeling my curls. they were so loose that nothing would help them hold a curl. i had tried finger coils, flexi rods, perm rods, twists. half of my curls were gone. i thought about what it would take to revive my curls, and i was not convinced i could do it. i sat around for about an hour before driving to the nearest hair cuttery to just shave my head. shaving my head comes with ease these days. saying goodbye to a few inches doesn’t break my heart anymore. i’m in love with the process.  i know that i’m the one damaging it, but color is just hard for me to resist.

in these last few months, i have resisted every urge to dye my hair. i’m adjusting my diet & hair care routine. my goal this time is increased strength & length retention. the most important thing i’ve learned through all my experiments with my hair is that, it is just hair. i’m so happy i learned to let go of the mentality that my hair was a defining factor of my beauty. it’s moreso an extension. it adds to my beauty, sure. but my beauty remains no matter the length. the health of my hair is now prioritized over the legth of it. so sometimes i make the mistake of overprocessing, and causing grave damage to my hair. but i take my L & just start my process all over, knowing that it’s not that big a deal to just let it go.

this is how far i’ve come in three months.  where do you think i’ll be at the end of this year? this is my first real hair journey. i have hair goals & i’m actually working on achieving them. are you on a hair journey this year too? let me know if we’re in this together. let me know your own hair journey! i’m all ears ladies (and gents too)!

2019 GOALS

hello, 2019.

i read an amazing book last year, extreme living by Keith Veney. this book, along with the right influences, have led me to change my life in one major way: be intentional. every move i make must serve a purpose. the purpose can be something as small as “to fill my heart with joy,” but it cannot be as frivolous as “i felt like it.”

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this year, i decided to take the time to reflect on 2018. i took this first week of the year to plan how to go after what i want in this new year. taking the time to evaluate my highs & my lows, so i can successfully move forward. the most important part was focusing less on my lows, and more on my highs. what were my accomplishments? how did i reach those levels? what did they bring me? by focusing my energy on my high points, i’m reassuring myself that i am on the path to success. so last year:

 

  • i consistently worked with shea moisture & influenster to review products and create content, success.
  • i launched my blog, success.
  • i traveled to a new city, success.
  • i minimized my lifestyle after 2 years of trying, success.
  • i lost 20+ pounds, success.

these may be mini accomplishments, but they stand out as major for me. at the end of the year, i didn’t even remember my resolutions. why? i wasn’t tracking any of them. as most people don’t. the new year sorta flies by. you anticipate it, you come up with some pretty solid ideas for ways you can change. but then, you’re faced with new year’s eve. so you party, get the last bit of your bad habits out of your system (maybe), the ball drops, and boom it’s a new year just like that. in the matter of a literal second. and maybe you stick with your resolutions for the first month, but then life happens, and you sorta lose sight of it. so let’s make this year different. let’s make a plan & hold ourselves to it. i’ll start…

in this year i want to start my career in beauty, cut my debt in half, and consistently post on my blog. now what is that going to take? faith, pereseverance, support, and my planners.

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the most important goal of mine is cutting my debt in half. i spent the last year feeling like the more i owed, the less i was free to do. it casued the quickest & longest episode i’ve gone through in my life. i started to feel trapped in different aspects of my life – my job, my home, my overall freedom. this year, i have taken control of my finances. i have assured myself that my debt is manageable, and i am capable of getting rid of at least half of it by new year’s eve. aside from taking on side hustles like lyft & taskrabbit, this will be achieved by creating a strict budget & fully abiding by it.

the second most important goal is securing a job in the beauty industry. cosmetology is the highest passion of mine, and i did not recognize it until i was 21, 4 years out of high school, and already making strides in different career paths. i am turning 25 this year which means i spent another 4 years working jobs i still didn’t love. this year i am committed to getting my foot in the door. i will stay true to this by only applying to jobs with a connection to cosmetology. from there i will be on the right track, creating a network to grow in the industry. i don’t expect it to come easy, but as long as i am putting myself in the realm of beauty, i am sure that i can make this happen.

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consistently posting on my blog, is the easiest goal of mine in my opinion. but that doesn’t mean it comes without work & dedication. my blog is based on the idea that there’s always something to do. when i originally wanted to start my blog it was meant to be the motivator to get me out the house. my best friend & i were always lounging around the house, when we really wanted to get up, get out, and do something. my blog is my escape from the grown up life. while i’m working my way towards financial freedom & career i can be proud of, i need time to still enjoy my life. there’s at least one day i am free every week, and that one day is dedicated to creating content for my blog. this is without negotiation.

so now it’s your turn. what is at least one goal you have for the year? and what exactly are you going to do to make it happen?

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THE MOST COMMON NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS & HOW TO STICK TO THEM

You know how this goes…

 

New Year’s Eve comes and goes. You partied all night and counted down the seconds to the new year you’ve been waiting so long for. This year was fun, but now it’s time for all the fortune next year will bring. So what fortune are you looking for? Losing weight? ‘Cause when you look good you feel good, and when you feel good you do good. What about saving up more? It’s time for a new car, maybe a new house. Continue reading “THE MOST COMMON NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS & HOW TO STICK TO THEM”