if you follow me on anything aside from this blog, you’ll notice i cut my hair. again.

who even am i? i remember when i used to turn my face up at the mere thought of cutting dead ends. now i gladly walk up to a barber and ask them to shave my head. seriously, if you knew me at 18, this is something you would’ve never imagined.

one thing that held true through my entire adolescent years was the fact that i loved my hair. i especially loved its length. not like it was down my back or anything magnificent. but it was mine, it was pretty damn healthy, and i was proud of it. it was beautiful, it was natural, and it was versatile. my mom never put a perm in our hair, and i thank her behind her back for it all the time. although i started getting my hair straightened on a biweekly basis at the age of 11, i have always been natural. this kept my hair in good standing. but, me and my mom had a deal after high school. graduation = hair color.

img_3926a few months (and colors) later, i decided i was going to cut it some more. by some more, i mean alot. it was the same year i turned 21. and i changed, alot. my life changed, alot. it was around thanksgiving of 2015, and it was time for the big chop. i did it partially for the health of my hair, but mostly because i felt different and i wanted to look different. my mom gave me a hairstyle that was to die for, and i dyed my hair a greyish purple. i was definitely a new woman. but i grew tired of it quickly, because i wasn’t a fan of the cut with my natural curls. so i completely shaved my sides so i could have a fade & enjoy my curls again. i kept it short, kept appointments with my barber.

but then i got busy, and i stopped getting it cut, so it was growing back. and let me tell you, fades do not grow back in a flattering shape. so later that year, i shaved it down to an even length. i started over and decided i was going to cater to the health of my hair this time. was i cute bald? yes. but i have way more fun when my hair can fit into a bun. my hair was growing, flourishing. unfortunately, the thought of drastic color changes came back to me.

as you can see i went back & forth, from bleached hair to jet black back to bleached. and that last round of bleach didn’t do me any favors. my ends were dead. so…


i cut my hair in october 2018. i got out the shower one morning, and i just wasn’t feeling my curls. they were so loose that nothing would help them hold a curl. i had tried finger coils, flexi rods, perm rods, twists. half of my curls were gone. i thought about what it would take to revive my curls, and i was not convinced i could do it. i sat around for about an hour before driving to the nearest hair cuttery to just shave my head. shaving my head comes with ease these days. saying goodbye to a few inches doesn’t break my heart anymore. i’m in love with the process.  i know that i’m the one damaging it, but color is just hard for me to resist.

in these last few months, i have resisted every urge to dye my hair. i’m adjusting my diet & hair care routine. my goal this time is increased strength & length retention. the most important thing i’ve learned through all my experiments with my hair is that, it is just hair. i’m so happy i learned to let go of the mentality that my hair was a defining factor of my beauty. it’s moreso an extension. it adds to my beauty, sure. but my beauty remains no matter the length. the health of my hair is now prioritized over the legth of it. so sometimes i make the mistake of overprocessing, and causing grave damage to my hair. but i take my L & just start my process all over, knowing that it’s not that big a deal to just let it go.

this is how far i’ve come in three months.  where do you think i’ll be at the end of this year? this is my first real hair journey. i have hair goals & i’m actually working on achieving them. are you on a hair journey this year too? let me know if we’re in this together. let me know your own hair journey! i’m all ears ladies (and gents too)!

Skincare Essentials: Masking

whether you have normal, oily, or combination skin, there’s a mask out there for you. face masks are great for selfies, self care, and self love. it’s that extra step in skin care that really levels you up. Here are some of my favorites out of my (unnecisarily) large collection.

for a deep detox

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kiehl’s rare earth deep pore clansing masque is packed with some of the best ingredients to draw out your skin’s impurities. amazonian white clay is known to remove bacteria, toxins, dead cells, and excess oil. one solid layer of this mask clears out pores & reveals clean, fresh skin.

origins clear improvement charcoal honey mask is a slight upgrade from their original charcoal mask formula. the bamboo charcoal from the original penetrates deep, drawing out the dirt & impurities dwelling in the pores. and the added honey is the necessary nourishment to leave the skin healthy & smooth. a perfect mask for sensitive, acne prone skin.

for balancing oily skin

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ole henriksen cold plunge pore mask was a game changing release this year. great results came along with the bomb selfies that came from using this mask. in one use, this mask instantly shrinks pores and draws out oils. the cold plunge mask is packed with AHAs and BHAs that balance oils, improve skin texture, and detoxifies the skin.

freeman apple cider vinegar mask is a 4-in-1 product. they say you can cleanse, scrub, tone, and mask with it. i only use it to mask & tone. it’s great at drying out the oils in my t-zone, without drying me out completely. apple cider vinegar is known to help tone & balance skin, as well as improving elasticity. the effects from this mask last me about 5 days. that’s pretty long lasting results, okay sis!

for maximum hydration

summer fridays jet lag mask is a cult favorite at this point. this mask is your best bet at soft, smooth, glowy skin! the jet lag mask debuted this year, and it was made to combat what’s in the name. you know how harsh traveling can be on your skin, right? but that can happen any day. especially in the winter, feeling dried out is the norm. but with the jet lag mask, you get a concoction of vitamins a, c, and e to bring your glow back & block all the bad environmental factors. the best part is that you don’t need to wash this mask off. just lay an even layer on your face, let it sink in to your skin, and watch the magic happen!

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the body shop ehtiopian honey face mask is a hidden gem. you either love the body shop’s face mask collection, or you’ve never heard of it. there’s honestly no in between. their honey face mask is made from community trade honey, marula oil, and olive oil – which is the perfect blend of natural goodies for a natural glow. the consistency of the mask feels like you’re literally drenched in honey. it’s thick, but in the best way. does that appeal to you? it does to me.

for exfoliation

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the body shop chinese ginseng & rice mask is a creamy exfoliating mask. it is a blend of ginseng extract, rice extract, and sesame seed oil. the active ingredient, rice, is known to polish away dead skin and support healthy turnover.

andalou naturals pumpkin honey glycolic mask is a mask full of chemical exfoliants. pumpkin is a natural enzyme that brightens and smooths the texture of skin by removing dead cells. glycolic acid is an alpha hydroxy acid that dissolves cells reveals radiant skin.



Are you really a blogger if you don’t do a monthly recap of what you loved? Probably. But this is something that I’m really excited to do. Continue reading “FEBRUARY FAVORITES”


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Exfoliating your skin may be the most overlooked and under-appreciated step of a good skincare routine, after toning of course. We’ll talk about that another day, one step at a time. Continue reading “SKINCARE ESSENTIALS: EXFOLIATION”